Relational Health Coaching for Boundaries
Coaching? Why coaching instead of counseling?
My approach is very simple. Coaching someone is based on the belief that the individual has what it takes to recover and be healthy. The coaching role is to equip, empower and come alongside the individual as they do the work. There is no magic wand to fix our problems. It takes hard work. The level of energy we put into working on ourselves determines the success of that effort. My goal is to come alongside you as grow and change.
My philosophy is that for the most part, people have what it takes to change and grow. What many people need are tools. These tools are picked up in a mentoring relationship. I help individuals develop the skills and learn the tools in a supportive environment.
I don’t believe in being the professional fixer. All that does is create a life time of people depending on someone else to restore their world. Because of the broken home crisis where over 50% of marriages end in divorce, there is a lack of mentoring.
All to often, very few of us learned how to do conflict in a healthy manner, so we avoid conflict at all cost. Yet in reality when two people with different views, experiences, values, perspectives and dreams come together, it is a natural and normal thing to have conflict.
Healthy conflict actually takes the relationship to a deeper level of intimacy, creating stronger bonds.
As healthy boundaries are set in relationships, we work through conflict, live and relate authentically. We learn how to respond, how to listen, have empathy, how to love from the heart and know how to be angry in a healthy way.
A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. Boundaries define who we are and who we are not. ARI offer answers and shows how to set healthy boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself!
Many people focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. That’s why the ability to set clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle.
Examples of boundaries needed
- How do we keep our home free of porn?
- Setting limits on using my phone when I am having a conversation with someone.
- How do I set limits and still be a loving person?
- How do I keep my computer and TV life from controlling the rest of my life?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- What does a legitimate boundary look like?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider telling someone “no”?
- What can I do when someone wants more of my time, love, energy, or money than I’m comfortable giving?
Are you ready for healing and change?
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