Relational Health Coaching for Addictions
Coaching? Why coaching instead of counseling?
My approach is very simple. Coaching someone is based on the belief that the individual has what it takes to recover and be healthy. The coaching role is to equip, empower and come alongside the individual as they do the work. There is no magic wand to fix our problems. It takes hard work. The level of energy we put into working on ourselves determines the success of that effort. My goal is to come alongside you as grow and change.
My philosophy is that for the most part, people have what it takes to change and grow. What many people need are tools. These tools are picked up in a mentoring relationship. I help individuals develop the skills and learn the tools in a supportive environment.
I don’t believe in being the professional fixer. All that does is create a life time of people depending on someone else to restore their world. Because of the broken home crisis where over 50% of marriages end in divorce, there is a lack of mentoring.
All to often, very few of us learned how to do conflict in a healthy manner, so we avoid conflict at all cost. Yet in reality when two people with different views, experiences, values, perspectives and dreams come together, it is a natural and normal thing to have conflict.
Healthy conflict actually takes the relationship to a deeper level of intimacy, creating stronger bonds.
As healthy boundaries are set in relationships, we work through conflict, live and relate authentically. We learn how to respond, how to listen, have empathy, how to love from the heart and know how to be angry in a healthy way.
Learning how addiction works, the tools to face the addiction, how to deal with the real issues that drive the addictive behaviors is the bedrock from which to begin recovery.
Many mistakenly think the symptom (addiction) is the actual the problem. The process of looking deeper, underneath the addictive behaviors may be painful. It can be a long and tough journey, but the only way you can bring real change and resolve the crisis is to understand what ultimately led to an addiction.
In short, addictions must be uprooted, not merely trimmed back when it becomes unmanageable.
Coaching is not counseling. Sometimes addictions need the collaborative efforts of a coach and a professional counselor. Coaching brings awareness and provides a safe environment to be real. Coaching equips the person struggling with the addiction with tools to do the work, empowers and instills hope for a different outcome for their future.
It is my core belief that addiction does not define you. Struggling with addiction has nothing to do with redefining who you are. You are “you”, and then there is the addiction. Their is hope for real change. You CAN get past believing that you are an addict for life and all you can do is manage the symptoms.
There is no real hope in that!
The disease is not who you are! The label “addict” is not part of the ARI vocabulary.
Are you ready for healing and change?
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